Being pregnant with more than 1 baby can be special and exciting. Once you knew that you were pregnant with 2 or more babies, you may have found that you formed strong bonds with each of them. Your thoughts may have been about how the siblings would be together as they grow up. Feelings about the loss of a twin or multiples pregnancy are unique, as you are potentially grieving for more than 1 baby.
It's not unusual to have mixed emotions if you experience the loss of 1 twin or multiple, and 1 or more babies survive. Feelings could include happiness about the surviving baby or babies as well as grief over the loss of 1 or more babies. This is normal. It's also normal to be anxious about the surviving baby or babies, especially if there are any health concerns with them.
Your feelings may go back and forth between being happy about the baby or babies who have lived and very sad about losing 1 or more babies. Each milestone your baby or babies reach can be a reminder for you of the loss of your other baby or babies. Talk about these mixed feelings with your partner and your healthcare team. Many communities have support groups for this type of loss. You may want to connect with one or get some counselling support.
